Do You Know You're Love Language

Remember when I said earlier that you may think you know yourself and even the concept of relationships, here you'll explore the concept of love language and why it is very important because its the foundation to a mature relationship. I never really had a mature relationship, even a  significant one. There are people that I know who've had significant love ones and/or moved in with them. I was and still am clueless about relationships, so I took it upon myself to become educated. I started to read books about relationships, different love languages, I mean you got to start somewhere, for me it was the introduction of a different perspective. He's the reason for this heck of a summer I'm having, he's opened my eyes about things I didn't know about, things people don't talk about cause its not comfort conversations. Our conversations are so in depth, I'm even astounded at how I phrase my words. My favorite thing to do is have debates, question our thinking, our ideas, makes our thinking wheels turn. He's always pushing himself to be a better person than the day before, something that resonated with me is that his experiences shaped him to be the man that he is today. Knowing you love language is important because it drives your view on love. A way to think of this is us being a metaphor for a car, a car has a tank and you fuel it with gasoline, same thing with us, we have a love tank and if we don't know how to fuel it we feel like we've never been loved the way we want to. And there are 5 love languages: words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, quality time, and receiving gifts.

For example, you could be with someone for a while and you make think its going good cause no one has said anything opposing the vibes, but the second you hug the person, they respond with "this is what I was waiting for, I miss this" and that when you realize their love language is physical touch. For me its quality time, I love to able to talk to my person for hours, be in their space, doesn't matter if we are doing something extravagant or just at home. We've all experienced being with someone but they aren't really there and when you express this feeling, you get shut down so you just don't bring up the topic anymore. Don't settle for a guy that doesn't push themselves, whose actions and words contradict each other, if they didn't change for themselves what makes you think they'll change for you, trust I waited since 2020 and its pretty much the same situation. It's hard don't get me wrong but the best thing you can do for yourself is to leave, find the love that you're missing, and if he's upset TOUGH because you were there until there was nothing left. And if people talk because you broke up your family TOUGH ON THEM, no one really knows what you put up with but yourself. We've all read about celebritites leaving relationships and they've blossomed, what makes you any different.